I have seen a few generic/aftermarket relays that are designed for power locks/windows, but the generic 4/5 pin relays can't do what the door lock relays do. Activate the relay one way, and one wire is 12v, the other becomes the ground. Activate it the other way, and the wires roles are reversed. You can use generic 5 pin relays like
these to do that, its basically what I did to add window relays, but it requires two relays rather than one.
So your wiring would look something like this:
1st Relay:
85 - blue wires from the lock switches
86 - ground
87 - power from the fuse block
87a - ground
30 - grey wires to the lock actuators
2nd Relay:
Relay Wiring:
85 - black/white wires from the lock switches
86 - ground
87 - power from the fuse block
87a - ground
30 - tan wires to the lock actuators
with the orange wires from the switches drawing 12V from the fuse block.
This way when the relays are active both wires act like grounds. Using the switch will activate one relay, connecting either the tan or grey wires to 12V and powering the actuator. Push the switch the other way and the opposite set of wires becomes 12V while the first stays a ground, powering the actuator in the opposite direction.
Also note that you might have to swap the tan and grey wires so when you push down on the switch, your doors lock rather than unlock. I'm also getting the wire colors from the diagram, in case yours are different.